Be careful of giving out too much information because there are some delicate things you should not share with your friends in a relationship. Sharing titbits of your relationship when you are with your girls does not sound like a bad idea.
Chatting with your babes or doing with your guys during your hangouts is not in any way criminal or wrong. But like everything else in life and love, there’s a place to draw the line. So here are the things about your relationship that you cannot share with outsiders. And it does not matter that they are your friends.
We’re all guilty of telling our friends and family about what is happening in our relationships. But you shouldn’t be telling them every detail. Here are some aspects that you should keep under wraps.
- Details of your last fight
Your fights aren’t for public consumption. “If you tell others about your last fight, rather than your partner, will not help solve the issue,” “Then you and your partner won’t have the know-how to navigate the next difficult problem.” Plus, they may end up going against him.
If all they hear are the “facts” that you presented, they may question why you’re together in the first place. “You can’t get angry with your friend because you’re the one who told her all the details.
- Your sex life
What you do behind closed doors with the person you love should remain behind closed doors. If the two of you are happy with how it goes down, that’s all that matters. No need to get validation or proudly make graphic explanations your friends.
It is also a betrayal of your partner’s trust. With nudes and other private sexy stuff shared in the confidentiality of your lover-to-lover communications, your approach should be absolute secrecy. Your partner intends for the pics and clips to be for your eyes only. Let it remain so, please dear.
- Something he’s told you confidentially
“Trust is easy to lose and hard to get back,” says Overstreet. If your partner tells you about a private issue—his mom’s breast cancer scare or a poor review at work for example—keep your mouth shut.
He has opened up to you because he trusts you and your ability to keep what you’ve been told confidential. You don’t want to break that trust. If a partner confides about one of the skeletons buried deep in his closet, it’s important for you to maintain this confidence. Trust is at the core of any relationship.
- When your in-laws annoy you
We’ve all been irritated with our partner’s parents and complained about it to our friends. But do your best to bite your tongue, especially since in-laws are a permanent fixture in your life. Be grateful that you have in-laws.
You never know when those words will get back to your husband—even worse, which ould be quite awkward—and make him resentful and defensive. And that will only do more harm than good. Let him rationalize their unkind behavior, or set the situation straight, But telling anyone else who is unable to right any wrongs is wasted breath.
- Your money Challenges.
If you and your partner are having issues saving or paying off debt, that’s no one’s business but yours. So keep it out of the discussion when next you are with your boys, or when you are out with your babes at that salon date.
Maybe he made a financial mistake. Or he’s having money troubles. Or people are discussing how much their partners earn or who pays for what. Many people are sensitive and insecure about issues that make them look weak. So, it’s best not to cross that line.
Financial details are no one else’s business. “That’s what financial advisers are for.